Ibi likes to take photographs of herself and her partner, Goshen, who she has been dating for over a year, in their shared apartment or when they are out having a good time.īefore publishing them on her Instagram, she always selects the “close friends” option. “If my family says they don’t want to have anything to do with me when I come out, which would hurt, I know I won’t be dependent on them,” she says. The couple are considering leaving Nigeria, but Ada is also preparing for an alternative path. But right now she is working towards financial independence. “One of Blessing’s love languages is physical touch and there are times when she wants to hold me in public and I pull back because I’m really conscious of my environment and in that moment I can actually see how hurt she feels when I do that,” she says.Īda wants to come out to her family – she’s started to put “more queer content” on her WhatsApp statuses, “because it creates more of a soft landing for me when I eventually come out”. Ada is aware of how her not being out impacts Blessing.
